“I attribute my success to this: I never gave or took any excuse.” – Florence Nightingale
Have you ever gone away on vacation and come back to find your flowers were all withered because they had not been watered. I have, and I was not surprised. Of course they didn’t make it, and there was nobody to blame but me.
We’re much the same. If we don’t “get watered” we don’t grow either. Most people want to grow, but either they don’t know how, or they don’t want to do what it takes. They wonder why they aren’t successful, why they don’t grow, they don’t make progress in life, yet they never take time to invest in themselves or their personal growth. If we don’t grow and make progress in life, there’s nobody to blame but us.
If all the plants in my garden were just ordinary plants that, it would not have been such a loss if they had died. But if I had a rare orchid or another plant that was very difficult to take care of and difficult to replace, I’d probably value it more and make sure if I couldn’t water it, I’d ask a neighbor to water it for me while I was on vacation.
We’re much the same. If we don’t value ourselves, if we figure we are easy to replace, if we think of ourselves as just ordinary, maybe we don’t put much effort into watering, into making sure we continue to learn and grow. But if we realize how unique we are, how special and valuable, we would make every effort to invest in ourselves and our personal development.
The question is, how do we do that? Here is one simple step, something that can help get you going in the right direction. One of the most debilitating things you can do, and one that is sure to stunt your growth, is to constantly blame circumstances for your own mistakes or misfortunes. It is not natural to want to take the blame for something that might not have gone as planned. It is so easy to come up with reasons or excuses for why you failed at something. But if you want to grow, if you want to progress and succeed, you have to learn to stop blaming. Don’t make excuses. Fix the problem, not the blame.
If you want to grow, if you want success, start with this: Don’t make or take excuses. Take charge. Be responsible. And then, be happy!