Why do you communicate with others? Why do you talk to others, share your heart, send a message, make a call, Skype, SMS, Line, or Chat. We usually do it when we have something we want to say. If I have to tell my daughter something, I will go and talk to her. If I want to share a message with many, maybe I will post it on Facebook. We communicate in many different ways, sometimes with words, sometimes with gestures, sometimes with our facial expressions. A lot of our time we spend communicating in some form or another. Today I read a quote about communicating that really got me thinking.
It’s one thing to communicate with people because you think you have something of value to say. It’s another to communicate with them because you believe they have value. – John Maxwell.
Most of the people I talk to, I do value them. I’m sure you do too. Isn’t that OK then? What this quote points out, and what I think is going to really help me in my communication with others, is to stop, even just for a few seconds, before I say what I have to say, and actually think about why I value the person I want to speak to. I’ll work on making this a habit, to bring up a pictures in my mind about what I really appreciate about that person, what value they add to my life. It doesn’t have to take long, but I know it is going to change the way I communicate. Maybe it won’t always change the words, but it will change the message that comes across, it will change the impression my words will give, it will change the effect my communication has.
It’s not the words that are the most important, it’s the connecting. It’s not us that is the most important, it’s the person we are talking to. This is a key to effective communication.