There is a lot of talk about how difficulties and challenges make us stronger. It sounds so good. I’d like it to be true. I’ve had so many challenges in my life, and I’m sure you have too. Everybody does. But they don’t make us stronger. Here is one quote I read today: “Hardships make us strong. Problems give birth to wisdom. Sorrows cultivate compassion. Those who have suffered the most will become the happiest.” Or like the song, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” by Kelly Clarkson. It sounds profound, something you’d want to believe, but the thing is, it’s not true. It’s a lie.
Difficulties, challenges, hardships, and sorrows do nothing to make our life better. It is how we respond to what happens that makes the difference. It’s only if we learn from the things we suffer that we become strong. Only then does it gives birth to wisdom, cultivate compassion, and cause us to end up happy.
Now, here’s a quote that sums it up really well.
Facing difficulties is inevitable. Learning from them is optional. – John Maxwell.
The problems we face and the difficulties we encounter are great learning and growing opportunities. We really need to treasure those times and make the very most of them. If we put the responsibility on someone else every time we have a problem, or if we blame our circumstances when we have a difficulty, we lose the opportunity to learn and grow. It’s like going to school, we fail the test and have to take that grade again. All that trouble for nothing. It’s a wasted chance. What John Maxwell says in that quote is so true. But to help bring out one more important point, I’d like to change the wording a little.
Having difficulties is inevitable. Facing them is optional.
When difficulties come, what do you do? Hide in fear? Run the other way? Put your head in the sand? Or do you face the problems head on, attack them, learn from them, win the victory, and keep going. That is the difference between growing or withering, life and death, defeat or victory, failure or success. Remember this, difficulties will come, that’s inevitable. Facing them and learning from them, that’s up to you.